How to console someone? How to be there for your friends or family?What I say may not matter, what I do may not matter. But I will still stand by your side when you need someone to talk to, when you need to vent your unhappiness.
I remembered my lowest point of my life till now. It's so hard to fight off, to let go. In the end, I realised the only way to heal, to fight a loss, is to
CHERISH.I recalled how my JC form teacher used to tell us how having a persishable life centre is such a wrong thing to do. People die, people leave. And when it comes, you become sad, you become lost. I didn't agree with what she said; I was filled with emotions. I thought at that time, "How could anyway simply put something above a relationship?"
I changed.
I realised what she said was indeed a very complex truth in life. I was just misunderstood at that time. Now I put my principles before everything. My principles to be sincere to my friends, to maintain integrity and to do the
RIGHT thing when they are the hardest thing to do in your life. I 'll be sincere to my friends and family and to cherish them. It's not that I will not be sad when they leave me, it's just that I will be less sad if one day I really lose them ------ cause they were the people I cherished the most.
I understood why people are so sad when they broke up. Women may tend to blame themselves, Men may lose their ego. When you love someone, must you always show that
you can do almost anything for him/her? Is that love? You just love yourself, thats all. You love how you are having the best relationship in the world now.
You don't have to do everything for him/her to show how much you love him/her. You just need to comfort her when she needs someone. You just have to be sincere to him/her and be yourself. A hug is sometimes what a woman may need --- to feel secure.
I try to keep my priorities for 'my partner' rather low. Do not mistake, I do not mean that I do not care about her, I just feel that love is integrated into life. Finding a partner to me is just part of a component in my "pie chart of life". I try to be committed to other parts of my life and integrate 'my partner' into them if possible. Otherwise, why try to force it, if dating is just a process of finding the "RIGHT" person? You still have to live on, you still have your friends, you still have your family, your religion, you career and most importantly, your pride. Why destroy the entire "pie chart of life" for just a small component?
Thats why I believe you will not hear such things in my life anymore, "I will love you forever" or "I am willing to give up everything for you". Thats not how life works!! In order to gain something, you lose more?!?! Do not make promises if you cannot fulfil. I stick to my principles. I have more things to take care of.
Do not be sad when you lose someone or lose something. That what comes around and goes around. It just means that that you are given the opportunity to find someone better!!!! Life is about discovery, about experiences. One day, when you look back, you will just laugh at your own foolishness, haha! Discover instead, what you have lost, and who are the people who really care. You might just find someone who is actually caring about you more than you have ever expected!
CHERISH!Thanks guys, I will always remember how you guys visited me at the hospital even when you all are so busy! Thanks! You guys helpd me fight off the pain when it was most unbearable!
